Thursday, January 12, 2012

December 8, 2011

I've been meaning to talk about this since..well December 8th!  December 8th marked the one year anniversary of our dear friends Annie & Justin's son passing.  Jack's Angel Day holds a special place in my heart.  Such a short life, yet his impact has been so significant. 

Here is sweet sweet Jack:

So with that, a few of us organized a Light the Night for Jack on December 8th.  Without Annie & Justin knowing we had friends and family make custom luminary bags for Jack and we arrived at their house around 5:30 PM that evening to truly Light the Night for Jack. 

Here was the picture of the bags in the back of my car - I'd say this ended up being about half of the total amount:

Here is the bag for Jack from Connor:

This was another one of my favorites from the priest at the church where Dan & I (and Annie & Justin) belong - Jack's Angel Day was also the Feast of the Immaculate Conception:
 And one from Jack's Opa and Grandma:

So many people struggle with how to support our friends at times of great grief - and you know, I'm proud to say that when given the chance to do something good - people do great things.  I didn't get many good pics of the final "Light the Night" but the best ones came from my phone:

Jack will be forever a part of me and his life has touched so many.

And now - while I have the chance I'm going to get up on my soapbox here and write a little something that I feel like needs to be said and that I know not everyone who reads this will agree with.  Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is a very scary thing for any new parent.  Doctors and nurses do their best to educate us on 'doing the right things' but sometimes things like Grandmothers and Mothers chime in and say things like 'well you slept with a bumper' or 'all my babies slept on their tummies'

Annie and Justin DID do all the right things and Jack's entrance to heaven was at his daycare providers home.  PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do not do things that are medically proven to put our children at any more risk than they already are - I've been a mom, I know it's tempting when they sleep better on their tummies, etc. and you're exhausted but it is NOT worth it.  I wish to see no one else I know (or frankly don't know) go thru a tragedy like this.

Here are some very basics:
  • Place your baby on their back to sleep rather than their stomach or side. 
  • Select bedding carefully; you want a firm mattress
  • No blankets, pillows, stuffed animals in the crib
  • Don't use bumper pads (started to be against the law in some areas)
  • Don't overheat the baby - use things like a sleep sack in lieu of blankets.  It is proven that babies born in the fall/winter have a higher risk of SIDS for this exact reason
Maybe it worked for your other kids - maybe it worked for your Mom - but is it worth the risk?

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To see Annie and Justin's blog on Jack's Angel Day visit:

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